Originally Posted By: whome
By starting to live your life and having fun, you break the control that he has over your life and this will really unsettle his world. Once this is achieved he should start to re examine his life.

This is what worked for me, I was put under pressure to heal because my wife started living her own life and all the things I had used to control her life and my world stopped working.

I like this. And if it doesn't work then at least you will be getting more out of life.