Hi Vic, welcome to this site and thank you for sharing. Yes, there are worse cases here, but in the end we are all victims - or survivors, depending on how far you are in the healing process. I feel for you, having to deal with close family member who is also an abuser. In my case, my brother was my main abuser. I know how it feels to hate someone, the same person who was your hero.
Good luck to you and your family.
When there are dolphins in the waves,
the sharks wont get to us.
I believed my dad that day
and became Dolphinboy,
my own protector.