Whether the decision is to fault the molestation or your genetic make-up, I think, humbly and respectfully, is pointless. It is the choice of accepting or not accepting how you feel. I know that i have spent decades in self-hatred and self-blame, only to realize that the choice is to accept the feelings as part of who i am or continue to tear myself apart over something I can not change. It isn't easy to acknowledge, even only to yourself, the feelings of attraction to both genders. I think it takes alot of self-respect to accept that the attraction is there.
Pain makes you Beautiful -the Judybats, 1993