I've been with my partner for 8 years now, he is a survivour. We've had lots of ups and downs, the real downs are always caused by him struggling with his demons and not being able to deal with them. There are only 2 other close friends that know what he has been through and he is adamant he doesn't want anyone else to know. He tried a counsellor once and she was totally not interested in helping him, we made a complaint against her but this completely destroyed what little confidence he had in counselling. I'm now at the stage where I'm not prepared to live with his outbursts where he totally loses control and is emotionally very cruel. I've told him he has 2 choices, seek help or leave. My question is, am I wrong to put pressure on him and is it a waste of time if he is doing it for the wrong reasons?