Trust me when i say forgive yes and that is more for yourself than anything else. Your pastor is wrong to just leave it so open ended like that. Honoring they mother and father can also mean staying away from them Because if you did go around them that would end up inevitably in dishonoring them I do not go around my mother to much because of this very reason we just do not get along in the normal mother son relationship so instead of trying to fake it we are around each other as long as we could and should be.

Is that the bible says to honor your mother and farther IN THE LORD

Ephesians 6 (NIV)
One verse per line
Children and Parents
1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 "Honor your father and mother"--which is the first commandment with a promise-- 3 "that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth." 4 Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

I am pleased to say you honor them in the lord if they are not in the lord and living and bringing you up in the lord than there is no obligation to honor them in this biblical way
Everyone wants to leave this part out just like the wife is to honor or follow the husband as he follows Christ if he no longer follows Christ why would she follow ?

The same goes for this in this instance
obey what ?
If they or he or she molested you this is not training a child up in the way that he or she should go no in fact this is where you have to read on about Christ telling the people that it would be better for a millstone tied around the neck and cast into the sea for hurting the little ones
meaning children

You have to use the holy spirit and let it lead and guide you read and study the word for yourself come to some conclusion for yourself man gets it wrong sometimes
That is the case here you do forgive but you may be honoring them by staying away from them nothing but pain is birthed by being around them and love does not birth pain

Do not get caught up in that Kind of teaching Jesus came and died because we are not capable of keeping the law that is including the 10 Commandments. Man is not capable of living a sinless life We are going to sin in this life but we should begin to sin less and less We are forgiven past present and future sins when we accept Christ as our personal Lord and Savior then it is the work of the Holy Spirit that will begin to sanctify us And the more we are purified and become more Christ like and conform our life to be more Christ like it will reflect in a manner as to not break the 10 Commandments Well will we always keep them 100% no because we are fallible But we have been redeemed by the blood of the lamb He knew that we would struggle he knew that we would sin so he paid the ultimate price for us But this does not give us an excuse to keep living the way we lived before we were saved Our life Should automatically begin to look different as our relationship grows in our knowledge of God grows And the sanctifying work of the Holy Spirit begins to minister to us. And reveals to you personally what needs to go and what needs to stay not man's ideas of what should go and what should stay. Too many people get in the business of doing gods work and only the work that the Holy Spirit can do everyone is at a different place in their life with God their faith is at a different place with God it is not up to man to determine how much faith or how much a person should know

God wants for every man to come to him and give their life to him and let him lead them let the spirit feed you read and study the word for yourself and the questions that you seek will be found draw near to him and he will draw near to you

Sorry typing on my phone hope that helps

Edited by nltsaved (11/19/12 06:44 AM)
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