This is a GREAT article on setting personal boundaries, Rachel, enjoy!

...uhm, "punching bag"!?!! No one is allowed to hit a loved one for whatever reason. Supporters are rare for survivors, and they are to be handled as delicately as our chaotic thoughts and emotions allow, but absolutely no punching! If he is, you need to consider your safety and state of mind, please.
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