I know just how you feel man. I am currently unemployed and living at home in a place I was abused a few times and next door to the place where I was continuously abused for three years. I could not agree with you more. New people live there but I remember going to one of their open house parties a long while back (before recovery began) and standing at the top of the stairs a little while before going down. Everything had been renovated but the memories were still vivid even underneath all of the repression.
I actually fantasize about winning the lottery and buying out the owners so I can tear the place down a la Forrest Gump and put some sort of monument up for our brothers and sisters.
"Life is like this dark tunnel. You may not always see the light at the end of the tunnel, but if you keep moving, you will come to a better place." ~ General Iroh