I知 a man now; I was raped as a boy but I知 a man now! I知 a man now; I was raped as a boy but I知 a man now! I知 a man now; I was raped as a boy but I知 a man now!
I believe that I was raped by a man of my grandfather's age at the same age you were raped, although I have no memory of it.
And your closing lines, quoted above, are my new mantra. I, like you, was raped as a boy but I'm a man now. Raped as a boy but a man now.
There's part of me that feels that I'm still a raped boy. I honor and protect that part of me, but he also needs to realize that it's safe now. That he is a man now because he is me.
Congrats on finding a wife and raising a family. Don't ever take that for granted; some of us aren't as lucky.
PM me if you ever need to talk.