In the last week the relationship I have with my partner finally makes sense . I knew he was incested but he told me he had worked it out years ago he's 53. All the issues we've been fighting over ,getting couples counseling didn't help. I felt more invisible and in the way as time went on . I'm feeling so much empathy for my partner , the dysfunctional ways he copes and how they affect me personally . I've been searching for books,web sites anything that can help me understand better and how to proceed from here. I live in Cape Cod so anything available from here to Boston I'm open to. He's going about his daily ways and I'm suffering from the anger that someone stole my loves ability to enjoy his life.