I think all of us spouses of survivors feel alone. We suffer alongside our husbands. It is sad to admit, but most of us become victims as well, feeling helpless because we unconditionally love a man who is in so much pain. We become victims of neglect, victims of his acting out, etc. How can we turn our backs on someone who is perhaps more alone than us? Most of us can't and won't.

Feel free to vent. I feel just as alone and helpless as you. I would lay down and die for my survivor.