My wife and I do have a complicated relationship.Fortunately we are both in our own individual therapy. I have discovered that I'm a great martyr. I have learned to play the victim so well that is has become a big part of my personality. I have to admit that I have frozen out my wife many times. It's a bad coping skill that I hope to rid myself of. I don't know where this new path is leading me, but I feel I have no choice but to travel it. Damn you Sandusky.