Yes, cheating is a huge problem. For my survivor its false validation and a sense of control. Trust me when I tell you it rips through me on a daily basis, I have a huge issue with setting up boundaries. But this forum is helping... a lot.
I feel like I'm not allowed to feel any type of way because although we live together we aren't married. Do I have the right to expect him to be faithful? We've gone from planning our lives together to sleeping in different rooms. Because I get physically sick when his phone goes off, I can't keep putting myself through it. He is the great love of my life, so I take it one moment at a time, and pray constantly.
Finding the right T is crucial. again....you are not alone!
Everything rides on hope now, everything rides on faith some how, when the world has broken me down YOUR love sets me free....