Therapy is definitely the way to go--too bad you have to wait weeks to go together. These Ts can recognize the unhealthy behavior and thought patterns that we survivors (and our mates) can get trapped in. Talking about the "unspeakable" can cut it down to size.
DW and I were married 11 years when my CSA roof fell in, and I knew right away I couldn't expect her to deal with the freakiness any better than I could. It's probably no coincidence that the flashbacks and other PTSD symptoms started up right when we sent our 3 y.o. son to pre-kindergarten for the first time. "Children are powerful triggers," the shrink said.
Good luck, and Peace!