Self identity and how one perceives themself can go along way they recovery. If u find urself stuck in a rut then maybe u quit walking towards the finish line. U can start the race but if u stop half way then u can't say u finished.
Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her