I am sorry but your therapist gives me the horrors. A therapist should NOT offer his opinions in therapy, and his explanation for your dismal sex life is just his lazy attitude towards therapy.
If you feel that sex is a problem then his responsibility is to find the problem.
Yes you do have a problem and yes your husband does have a problem and yes you both need help

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