You said you cried out to God. You are on the right track there. He has helped me way more than any T. He took alcohol away right then. The urge to watch porn away right then. He took my cursing away right then. He has helped with most of my rage and anger but I gotta lot to finish with that. I hope my EMDR will help that. I wish you the best and put Him first and your H next and everything will work out for His will. His will is for marriage to work..May not in a time frame you want but stay the course. Sorry to get on the faith wagon here but I was glad you said what you said.
Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her