What must be understood also is that the mans brain has been affected by CSA.. To a great extent. Normal isn't normal to us. Well until we get thru therapy and them we/I atill second guess mist thouggts or actions.. But yes a man should see that his past is causing his family issues and try to fix it. I can only speak for myself tho.
Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her