So.... since this is apparently a really really common thing... how the heck does it get fixed? How do we work on it?

What's the practical application for this? Maybe for some of us we're content with the way it is... but what about us (like me) who realize that I have huge longing and void that I need male friendship and companionship and even feel it's something I need to move forward and heal the next broken thing in me!

I have a wife who I love dearly and love her affection (when she's willing to give it, which isn't often enough for me but... anyway), but that affection certainly doesn't help fill or sooth the hurting spaces in me. Maybe seeking that from others, regardless of gender is just a fool's errand, I really don't know. I've always been this way (at least it feels like it has been).