I hear you Ed, I was 38 on my the date that I knew what I needed to be happy. I would just say that who I'm attracted to had very little to do with my coming out.

I fell in love with the most beautiful person I have ever met, I knew instantly that I had just met my soul mate. If this has happened for you Ed, then I would not change a thing, regardless of sexual attraction, if it hasn't then I would never, ever give up.

Stay strong