"There is no condemnation now for those who live in union with Christ Jesus." Romans 8:1
(i constantly fight against a feeling of self-condemnation - and the suspicion that others are condemning me as well. this speaks to that situation.the whole chapter is good - but i'll cut to the chase.)
"31 In view of all this, what can we say? If God is for us, who can be against us? 32 Certainly not God, who did not even keep back his own Son, but offered him for us all! He gave us his Son—will he not also freely give us all things? 33 Who will accuse God's chosen people? God himself declares them not guilty! 34 Who, then, will condemn them? Not Christ Jesus, who died, or rather, who was raised to life and is at the right side of God, pleading with him for us! 35 Who, then, can separate us from the love of Christ? Can trouble do it, or hardship or persecution or hunger or poverty or danger or death? 36 As the scripture says,
“For your sake we are in danger of death at all times;
we are treated like sheep that are going to be slaughtered.”
37 No, in all these things we have complete victory through him who loved us! 38 For I am certain that nothing can separate us from his love: neither death nor life, neither angels nor other heavenly rulers or powers, neither the present nor the future, 39 neither the world above nor the world below—there is nothing in all creation that will ever be able to separate us from the love of God which is ours through Christ Jesus our Lord."
(OK - so why do i still feel condemned and un-loved? i think it is my own focus on myself and an assumption that my problems are greater than God's grace - pretty silly when stated like that. so - nothing outside myself can separate me from God's love and acceptance - but i can do it myself. learning to love, forgive and accept myself is intricately intertwined with learning to love, forgive and accept God. i can't do one without the other.)
"the scariest thing about abuse of any shape or form, is, in my opinion, not the abuse itself, but that if it continues it can begin to feel commonplace and eventually acceptable."
- Alan Cumming, "Not My Father's Son"