Jude -

i really respect you for telling your story with no excuses and for trying to work on the marriage. sounds like an amazing woman you lucked into. you are both survivors. congratulations and all the best wishes for the next however many years you've got left!

"My experience has shown me that I all too often tend to deny that which lies behind, but as I still believe, that which is denied cannot be healed." Brennan Manning, "All is Grace - A Ragamuffin Memoir"