Hi Gecko,

Welcome to MS.

I am glad you have found this place of healing and support.

I read your blog - I am very glad you addressed the myth regarding abused males becoming abusers. That myth has caused us great harm. If you want more information, in particular, information regarding the study from which that erroneous conclusion was drawn and research which not only debunks that myth but also discusses how that first study was flawed, you can find the post here.

There are several books you might find useful.

Abused Boys: The Neglected Victims of Sexual Abuse by Mic Hunter

Victims No Longer by Mike Lew

I am certain others will share titles they have found useful. You can find these titles, and others here at the bookstore.

Take your time and look around. You do not want to trigger yourself by reading too many posts at one time.

At your own pace, read the boards and wander into chat. The lounge (chat) is open 24 hours a day though it isn't always populated.

We also have moderated chats called Healing Circles. They meet on Sunday and Wednesday evenings at 9pm eastern time and one on Tuesday at 19:00 UTC (European and African time zone) which translates to 2 PM Eastern US time zone. The Healing Circle on Tuesdays is scheduled to resume in January.

Again, welcome to MS.

Acceptance on someone else's terms is worse than rejection.