Excellent--you set boundaries for yourself and I bet they have helped him face the past. Your actions were not harsh, but rather a necessity for you and him to change and heal. In time I hope you feel safe--because feeling safe is so important in the healing process. As a survivor it was not until I felt safe with my T did I open up. I have met a few supporters who make me feel safe and I can share--others I dare not share.

Good luck and continue to heal.