Anyone or anything can lead. A donkey / horse can lead a wagon. A cow can lead a plow. The one steering these has the control. Who is steering us. Let God have the wheel. You may think you are in the lead to only find the devil has the reigns. I rebuke satan from our life in the name of Jesus.

If you don't follow God then I guess put whom or whatever you follow where you see God
Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her