I am the wife of a survivor, going through the same thing you are. I too have been having issues keeping it all together.. I will tell you, we are getting passed the no sex stuff, but it is still a very long battle.
I told h just today that I'm tired of being his babysitter, I feel like the exact same you do..
I am running into having no support system right now either, I may not be much help but I would be here to listen to ya. I know how good it feels to be able to just talk about it. Feel free to send me a personal message.. God bless Hun!