Ouch - you sound like someone who's been hurt. I'm very sorry about that.
To answer your question - abuse survivors have all kinds of ways to deal with being abused. 'Acting out' can mean anything from masturbation to sex hookups. I can only speak from my own experience - while I've had to admit to watching gay pornography, I don't hook up with anyone. As bad as my life has been, I don't want to add cheating on my wife to it.
Without hearing from the survivor, it's difficult to say what is going on. I hope that this gives you a measure of comfort.
Edited by ModTeam (09/28/12 05:06 AM)
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