Tina, I am super sorry that you are going through what you are going through. Sounds to me like he doesn't really have all the answers and that probably creates a great state of anxiety for you. Hang in there - focus on you - and support him if he's willing to try to sort through some of this stuff with the help of someone who knows how it goes.

From all of my reading and obsessing post disclosure, it seems that this is actually really the age where most men finally come face to face with these issues for real. I have read that this is the age for example that men are triggered by their sons or daughters turning the same age that they themselves were victimized. Things like that. In fact, I think that men in the 20s and early 30s who are dealing with the effects of CSA are more likely not the norm.

Just my opinion.