May be from some kinda PTSD from the wreck when I was 16 and my GF was killed. Could be from CSA. U nailed it tho , it stems from my sense of self worth. Just one negative thing and trigger depression. Especially when it is someone close.
Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her