Country - come on, man - look what you just said:
***Just the smallest little thing...***
*** ...just a few words."
You KNOW it is little things that trigger - and that they aren't that important in themselves. this is where we over-react. when you are outside of it - looking at it objectively, you can see that the triggering words or events are not that serious. it is our past, our memories, our feelings - that are the big stuff. and they are manageable. you don't have to go back there and re-live it. acknowlege those things and decide to deal with them in a healthy way instead of becoming the victim all over again. get yourself back into the present. breathe. tell yourself some Truths. remind yourself where you are and who you are and Who is with you - and you can DO this. Don't be overcome with evil - but overcome evil with GOOD.
"the scariest thing about abuse of any shape or form, is, in my opinion, not the abuse itself, but that if it continues it can begin to feel commonplace and eventually acceptable."
- Alan Cumming, "Not My Father's Son"