You are right, it does need to be discussed more often. Unfortunately I cannot approach the local church heads to talk with them about it. The intentions of the church are nobel but we have a clergy that is ever changing and within our own church. 1 day its one person and in 2 years it could be someone else. Right now the head is a friend of mine and soon it could be the person teaching sunday school. So long story short everyone will eventualy know. One thing this has taught me is I have the ability to shut down until it passes and im ok with that for now.
You did give good advice, I am going to request pulpit topics a week in advance and tell them its to study idioms that may be topic specific. That actualy doesnt mean a whole lot but they wont know..
"Those are not your sins" A wise man