My H is so threatened by intimacy. The mere mention of it makes him runs for the hills. Being a CSA survivor myself a lot of his behavior reminds me of my own pre-therapy behaviors and when I call him on it he really goes into orbit. Survivors have a wall around themselves and anyone who dares try to climb it or peak over it often gets arrows shot at them. I agree with country my husband recently sunk into quite a depression and asked me to live with a friend for awhile. I think he feels uncomfortable about anyone seeing him suffer through his current funk.
Everything comes from within