You are a great poster and give great advice bud. I wish I could help you more or be as well illustrated in my points as you are. I hate to hear you struggling.
Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her