There is a profound post up these on "What did we Loose".

I respect the thought, have felt it badly at times too.

It gets better when we consider instead, WHAT DID WE GAIN.

I'm just a survivor like us all. I realize we tend to make similar mistakes, have similar side effects, etc.

But in recovery I gained back a sense of self value, could see clearly I am a very good & loyal husband, have been shown here by a guy my kids age that I am a great dad, and have had a chance in recovery to help some very fine people here, and help people all around my home.

I never credit abuse or recovery for the good things we do. I think those steps come natural to us because we were good kids and are good men.

But I credit recovery for letting me see clearly that the good in us can overcome the hurt abuse left behind.

I still say it does get better. I hope it does for us all.
"You can get far in life by pushing except through a door marked PULL...." Profile quote in my son's senior year HS Yearbook.