We have decided to hold off a little while on this, I was starting to wonder if the urges to start this were just a means to re-enact the abuse that I went through, we have agreed that it is still something that we would like to experiment with later down the road but I too have had some fears about my wife falling for another man and that idea does scare me too, so before we really go through with this we need to work some on ourselves first.