Those are all traits of a CSA victim. I know it don't help you buty advice would be for him to get into therapy regularly an maybe you go with him. It worked for my Wife and I. Maybe others can add some advice to help you.
Ephesians 6:13

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand.

Ephesians 5:25

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her