Shields I"m in the same boat. My CSA has destroyed my sex life and I blame my self. I still wonder why today she is still with me.

Oprah did a show on this subject a few years ago, 200 men sexually abused. I invite you to go to her website, at and in the search icon, type in "200 men sexually abused". There you will find some interesting information that may help you and your wife.
Tomorrow brings another day