You are so right Esposa. For me, sometimes it is hard to distinguish what is my problem, what is his problems to handle and what are our problems together......
It is hard to see them suffer. I wwant to "kiss the boo boos" and make them all better. The problem is that if we do that, if it wwere even possible, is that we take an opportunity away from them to grow and learn and with that comes an increase in their self esteem.
I can't get sucked into the insanity because it makes me insane and then I can't be the parent I need to be to ensure my kids don't grow up in a dysfunctional family and end up where I am. I need to tell myself that constantly. I do my children such a great disservice if I am not taking care of myself.
This is where I am, 722 days after my life was shattered and my eyes opened.