(((((hugs))))) to all who posted here.
Losing a child is a terrible thing to go through, no matter how it was conceived, planned or unplanned, born or unborn. My wife and I lost a child the day she was born, and she also miscarried a few unborn children as well. Few things will make a man feel more helpless than losing a child, I cannot imagine dealing with abortion or abuse on top of that and could see how it would further magnify the feelings of helplessness.
I think there are organizations out there for men who are hurting because their children were aborted. I can't remember anything off the top of my head but I think it is Project Rachel or something like that?
“If a man wishes to be sure of the road he treads on, he must close his eyes and walk in the dark.”
- Saint John of the Cross