Yeah, I really need to find where I read that- it was on an Australian website somewhere and was very clear about it - so will keep looking. It quoted stats that claimed that when women abused, they overwhelmingly abused young males. As I said, will keep looking!
I also think there must be a particular kind of shame associated with all that - society's idea seems to be that men can't participate unless they're 'into it', ie, have an erection.
I've been reading some really interesting things about this over the last couple of days but have predictably lost track of what I read when because there's just been so much - I think I'll go over my Internet history and pass the stuff that struck me on to you guys.
Great site - cheers and love to you all,