I don't want to be involved in the "fixing" - I just need to know that there is a commitment to change. (I have my own fixing to do.) But if there is not commitment to change, I need to leave. So I watch for commitment and I watch for change - which could be easily confused with "trying to fix".

For example, I read every single word you men write and I ask tons of questions here on MS - but not so I can go tell him what to do, but so I can identify changes and acknowledge them and support them.