I suspect a lot of survivors can relate to being the compliant partner. And I suspect a lot of spouses wind up married to survivors because they sought out a compliant partner. It makes healing and recovery, while maintaining a marriage, very challenging. I suspect it's why many survivors wind up divorcing.

A marriage that starts out with one set of expectations and roles has to be very solid in other ways to survive the wrenching that goes on when one or both partners break out of those roles.
Work like you don't need the money;
dance like no one is watching;
sing like no one is listening;
love like you've never been hurt;
and live life every day as if it were your last.