Sometimes it has helped me when my wife offers me alternatives - like a multiple choice. It is easier to pick one if i don't have to come up with the idea all alone. or articulate it. afraid of choosing the "wrong" one. a while back it was fatal if she asked my opinion and then disagreed. like - why did you even ask if you already knew what you wanted? and there were too many choices she wanted me to be involved in - broccoli or green beans, discount store or supermarket - today or tomorrow? it was exhausting. Sometimes i'd be to distracted by my own internal dialogue to even hear, much less decide. Gradually, i've been able to get more practice in making decisions. Sometimes i can even initiate a decision - like let's go to XYZ restaurant tonight!
"the scariest thing about abuse of any shape or form, is, in my opinion, not the abuse itself, but that if it continues it can begin to feel commonplace and eventually acceptable."
- Alan Cumming, "Not My Father's Son"