I can see why you reacted that way, Sailor John. It's not a rejection, it's just trying to keep yourself safe.
I was so frustrated when I wrote this post, and feeling very rejected. Even though my rational mind knew it was just his trauma keeping him behind a protective wall, after a while it started getting under my skin.
I am slowly learning to not take this stuff personally, and it's forced me to look at my own baggage in the process. I guess the more centered and balanced I am, the better support I can be to him.