1; How did your partner tell you of his CSA?
I'm brushing my teeth, he's in the shower and says "What do you want me to tell you? That I was abused as a child?" I am stunned and silent - then the next day, just before bed, he tells me. No warning - no context.
2; Did you suspect there was something wrong?
I think I always assumed something bad had happened to him - but didn't fathom this bad. Individual and couples therapy after affair discovered 4 months ago.
3; Did he immediately start a program of recovery?
He was already in therapy, but not with someone who knows about this stuff. I am hopeful.