This happened over a year ago this month. After a roller coaster ride and a great therapist for myself, and reading the board throughout there have been boundary's set, and even though I know his life could be better, it was his choice to get help and I have never forced the issue after suggesting it once. As to abuse, after this one incident in 34 yrs and him telling me his story the verbal abuse has never occurred again.( part of the boundaries set)took the rough ride, now just little bumps in the road,with a lot of love in between and hope that someday he will be all that he can be