I don't usually respond to posts to this question, but I cant PM you.
Don't forget that your husband sees this as a failure as a man. It is not going to be easy for him to admit this and go to therapy.
Don't force him Just love him, but more importantly, don't let him abuse you in any way.
Get yourself into a CODA program or and Al-Anon Program. The wonderful ladies here will help YOU to cope with what is about to happen in your life. It is gong to be a rough ride but don't give up, there is hope.
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