My older brother did some sexually inappropriate things with me when I was kid. We have never talked about it and we all pretend it never happened. I actually think they all forgot about it? Maybe they would tell me it never happened and I made it all up?

Do you need to confront them to heal? Does it matter? If I never talk to him or my family about it, does that mean I have not healed or forgiven? Because I do feel like I forgave him.

I was thinking about it but I actually prefer to pretend that it never happened. It is easier for me that way.

Has anyone had this kind of experience? What did you do and how did it turn out?