Yup, this is an important topic, so thanks Ken for posting it.
At various points in my recovery process I've found myself engaged in care-giving to everyone but myself. I don't tend to do this anymore, especially since I started to do a lot of work on the co-dependency patterns I developed as a result of my abuse. Whew--life went through a lot of rearranging when I stopped trying to show up unconditionally for others (of course I had been showing up conditionally--it's just that I didn't recognize this at the time). Nowadays, I get to show up for me, first and foremost, and as I can lend a supporting hand to others. It took a long time to get to this place, and I still need to stay conscious that I have a tendency to try to fix others in order to fix myself. As long as I remain aware of this tendency, I do a pretty good job of taking care of myself!
Just for today I will treat myself with respect, compassion and acceptance.