I lost my confidence after my rape. I felt like I was not as good or as capable as other men. It is something I have had to really work on for the last twenty years. Due to my lack of confidence over the years I allowed others to take advantage of me in other ways. In essence I allowed others to continue to diminish my quality of life. I had the idea I did not deserve a full life and settling for the scraps was more than enough for me.

The fact that your assailant was female does not make you weak. I have known many women in my life who were physically strong and could fight better than many men. It was not your fault at all.

You are still a man in my eyes and in the eyes of the good men here.


Broad statements often miss their true mark.