I liked what you said, Crux. And I like the idea of utilizing what works instead of the whole bag of tricks. I think you can do it.
I too was adversive to the pat slang. I still feel that way about certain terms. And I do not feel the need to embrace them.
Buzzwords put me off - I don't blame your wife.
Thanks for the kind words. Labels are just that - outer indicators that cannot measure the depth of what is present underneath. Just like a label on a folder that cannot reveal the in depth documents inside.
I agree - "they aren't everything".